I know I’m making the right choice for my rescued foster dog, but does he?
As a fellow foster, and according to the Furever Network ‘rescue hero,’ I’m sure you’ve heard many times from others “How do you do it? I could never be fostering dogs to be adopted out; I’d get too attached and wouldn’t be able to let them go.” Does this mean that those that do foster rescue dogs have special powers, allowing them to refrain from attachment? Hardly! Getting attached and letting them go, despite your love for them IS extremely difficult, as everyone suggests. And, if you’re anything like me, you grow to be extremely fond of each and every dog as they pass through your home. With each dog, I prepare myself for what may be an impending ‘foster fail,’** one that I really won’t be able to let go. But then I remember why I wanted to foster dogs in the first place – to help as many as I can. Ultimately, if you adopt rather then let go, your time and space to foster another rescue diminishes, leaving the next dog in need with possibly no place to go. I know I’m making the right choice for my foster dog, but does he? I know that in my heart of hearts, each of the rescue dogs I foster understand these words…
“Dear Foster Dog,
I’ve had you for a while now, in my home, on my couch, on my lap, with family and friends, in my bed, and most importantly in my heart. I’ve gotten to know your personality, likes and dislikes and all of your sweet quirks. I’ve watched your confidence grow, and I am in awe at your complete joy of living for the moment. As I look ahead to when you will meet your adoptive family, I am overcome with emotion.
Please don’t think that I gave up on you.
Please don’t think that I abandoned you.
Please continue to live in the moment.
Please remember me, but,
Please don’t miss me!
Know that your foster Mom loves you and that you will forever have a home with me, that I hope you will never ever need. I know you will have a fantastic life, and even though I wish I could be a part of it daily, you need your new family, they need you, and I need to continue fostering dogs in need.”